- THE INNER CHILD, THE ADOLESCENT, AND THE EMERGING ADULT -

If the child felt unloved, unlovable, and unable to show love to an appropriate person, then there will be pain, conflict, and hurt. This pain of the inner child does not just disappear, it lodges deep within the person's being and begins to assert an influence upon that person's behaviour.

If a child feels unloved then it will require to find other ways to get this love. The child may begin to find ways to bring attention to itself - feeling that this will be an adequate substitute, in fact the only available substitute, for this horrible lack of loving that they so acutely feel.

The further we move from love, the more seperate, isolated, and alienated we become - which is perfect raw material for producing egoism. Remember that the ego is a word we use to describe this "being individual". A healthy ego is an integrated person. An unhealthy ego is an attention seeking egoist.

By the time a person is entering the adolescent stage, they may already have a history of pain and disappointment. Adolescence usually brings with it further pain and confusion which may be stored in the chakras with the existing backlog.

Unresolved childhood and adolescent negativity and disappointments are generally stored in the lower chakras - especially the second chakra - but effect the whole system. They tend to exhibit themselves as;

1. Attention Seeking Behaviour
2. Inflated Egoism.
3. Physical, mental, and emotional pain, discomfort, and dis-ease.
4. Self Denial and the Masked Self.
5. Irrational childish emotions and responses to life (as the hurt inner child exhibits itself)
6. Addictions and negative self harming habits.
7. Control and Blaming others.
8. Bitterness, Resentment, and Hate.

Because the lower chakras are bunged up with all these unresolved issues, they are dysfunctional and this dysfunction tends to completely absorb the individual because these things are needing to be sorted out. Because of the absorption in the dysfunction, the higher chakras receive little or no energy - focused awareness - from the individual. Without the functioning of the higher chakras, a person cannot truely become a mature adult. Thus the unhealed childhood and adolescent pains keep a person locked in a self-perpetuating cycle of negative, confusing, frustrating, and often harmful behaviours.

All of this negativity needs to be resolved and healed and this is achievable with ICM STAGE 4. Only when all this negativity is dissolved can the true mature adult emerge. Only when the childhood and adolescent pains are healed can the lower chakras function properly, and only when this happens can the higher chakras begin to awaken and operate.

One good attitude to approach this healing process with is to happily take the responsibility for our inner child and adolescent, for our inner sub-personalities. We become the loving, compassionate, and understanding parents of our sub-personalities. We can register our attention seeking behaviour and think "Well, I really must do something about this inner child / adolescent / etc.." We are then in a stronger position to embrace the task of dissolving this disturbance and pain.

A true mature adult human is a healed and integrated person.

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