• Neurotic: Unintegrated, unbalanced, extreme, fragmented, tamasic/rajasic, and persistently irrational.

  • Balanced: Integrated, holistic, steady, moderate, sattvic, and rational.

It is very important to be able to distinguish between that which is neurotic and that which is natural.

All neurotic behaviour including neurotic perfectionism has it's roots in the rejection and denial of heart, soul, and God - the qualities of spiritual living. This produces a tendency for the individual to experience the fear of the fall and a disturbed mind/personality.

The individual becomes unbalanced in all areas of life, swinging from depressed to grasping.

In modern psychology, the term neurosis, also known as psychoneurosis or neurotic disorder, is a general term that refers to any mental imbalance that causes distress, but does not interfere with rational thought (i.e., psychosis) or an individual's ability to function in daily life (i.e., psychosis or a personality disorder).

As an illness, it represents a psychiatric condition in which emotional distress or unconscious conflict is expressed through various physical, physiological, and mental disturbances (as physical symptoms, anxieties, or phobias).

It has perhaps been most simply defined as a "poor ability to adapt to one's environment, an inability to change one's life patterns, and the inability to develop a richer, more complex, more satisfying personality." (Boeree 2002) Neurosis should not be mistaken for psychosis, which refers to more severe disorders.

The term connotes an actual disorder or disease, but under its general definition, neurosis is a normal human experience, part of the human condition. Most people are affected by neurosis in some form. A psychological problem develops when neuroses begin to interfere with, but not significantly impair, normal functioning, and thus cause the individual anxiety. Frequently, the coping mechanisms enlisted to help "ward off" the anxiety only exacerbate the situation, causing more distress. It has even been defined in terms of this coping strategy, as a "symbolic behavior in defense against excessive psychobiologic pain...," which, " self-perpetuating because symbolic satisfactions cannot fulfill real needs." (Janov 1998)

Some neuroses may be rooted in ego defense mechanisms, but the two concepts are not synonymous. Defense mechanisms are a normal way of developing and maintaining a consistent sense of self while only those thought and behavior patterns that produce difficulties in living should be termed neuroses.

Psychological inadequacy are general feelings of insufficiency. These are often job or family related. Another common example is the inferiority/superiority complex, which is a form of overcompensating.


All neurotic and insecure behaviour has its roots in FEAR and this fear is based upon IGNORANCE. Ignorance about ourselves (lack of self knowledge), how we operate (lack of holistic health knowledge), others, relating to others, and the world.

If we have communication problems and do not feel that we can talk about our problems, then the fear (expressing itself as anxiety, paranoia, and hostility) builds up in the body and mind and starts to have a negative impact upon our lives and the lives of others.

A major aid to the dispersal and removal of neurotic insecurity is self-knowledge and communication. Once a person feels that they can understand and communicate upon every area of human life without being judged by the listener, then the neurotic imbalance (that expresses itself as insecurity) can be dispersed - the mind can be brought back into balance - and the person can understand themselves.

As we understand ourselves then our previous insecurities and irrational fears begin to disperse and disappear from our life.

"Know thyself" - Understanding is the golden key to living a holistically healthy and balanced life that can be of benefit to everyone.

A lot of neurotic insecurity is a product of:

  1. Not understanding ourselves: our body, emotions, and mind.

  2. Not being able to communicate about ordinary issues as they arise. This is usually due to feeling a lack of self-worth. We don't feel worthy enough to even feel that we are allowed to talk about our life and our problems.

Then the mind becomes imbalanced (swings between extremities) as the person builds up a backlog of unexpressed issues and concerns. Much of these problems have their roots in childhood and adolescence, when a person has been ignored or forced to behave in ways that are contrary to their natural character (ref: conditioning).

The insecure person feels that they cannot manage their life properly, that do not have the right to be here, and that they are worthless. This is often linked to the circumstances of their childhood (ref: conditioning).

When we are insecure then we have the tendency to become paranoid and hostile towards others. In our insecurity we perceive others as a threat because we are caught up in basing our identity and feelings of self-worth upon external relationships to people and things. In this state, we have lost contact with our authentic inner center.

The lack of confidence and self-comfort that the insecure person feels is often overcompensated by some of the following neurotic (irrational) behaviours:

  1. Irrational hostility towards others.
  2. Paranoia (insecurity in relationships)
  3. Hyper competitive personality.
  4. Irrational anti-social behaviour.
  5. Feeling that self-worth is linked to material wealth, achievements, and social position.

The insecure mind is always in a state of anxiety and all relationships are a source of confusion and paranoia, because the insecure person has not yet developed an inner center where they feel secure and comfortable in themselves. Security does not mean lack of doubt as doubt and uncertainty are natural parts of human life. The difference is that the secure person is not constantly doubting their abilities to manage their life.

When we have problems concerning any areas of life and we do not feel that we have anybody to communicate to, then we are left walking around with many insecurities.

If we use the seven center system, we can soon realize that there will be a major insecurity relating to each area of life, and that we need to remove this fear in order to remove the insecurities and help a person relax into sanity.

Gremlins (Negative Thoughtforms) of the Neurotic Mind.

Your personal gremlins are a stubborn lot.

hey group together and grunt and fester when all you want is a happy life.

It is only you who gives the gremlins their power.

Use your mind to kick them into the limbo from which they grew.

We have all experienced (or still do) these persistent negative thoughts that result in a persistently negative attitude towards life.

"As we think, so we become."

Knowledge is power - the power to change our mind and behaviour. To help us identify and thus conquer these persistently negative thought-forms, we can imagine them to be "Gremlins." Once we have identified them then we can apply the opposite thought-form that will over-ride the "Gremlin." These Gremlins are usually extreme and persistent negative personality attributes that are simply ways of thinking, and we CAN change the way we think.

Remember, the word "neurotic" means "extreme, irrational, persistent, and imbalanced", and it is these "neurotic personality problems" that the term "Gremlin" refers to. Rational and moderate displays of most of these negative experiences are perfectly normal and everybody experiences them. It is when they become "neurotic" that we need to apply some sort of therapy to bring the personality back into holistic health and balance.

Neurotic Gremlin Antidote
Extreme shyness I am not that important to feel this self-conscious. There is no point being this shy as it is not good for life.
Lack of confidence I can try.
Arrogance, Conceit, and false pride Humility, Modesty, and being open to learning
Low self esteem Everyday in everyway my life gets improves.
Negative self image I'm ok and I can steadily improve.
Paranoia I am not that important that others are thinking about me.
"I can't" I can try.
Nihilism - what's the point? Trying to enjoy daily activities and not look for any hidden meaning within them.
Hatred Neutrality, forgiveness, appropriate friendliness, liking yourself (as within, so without)
Jealousy/Envy Happiness for others good fortune.
Anger Tolerance. Forgiveness. Empathy. Compassion. Calm.
Greed Considering others. Non-hoarding. Wise and appropriate giving.
Selfish Lust Admiration and appreciation.
Resentment/Spite Good will. Forgiveness. Mercy.
Blaming others for our misfortune. Taking responsibility for our life and forgiving others that have hurt us.
Selfishness Considering others.
Childish emotional reactions Learning mature responses.
Harmfulness Harmlessness
Revenge Forgiveness.
Abuse of Power and Position Using power and position lovingly and wisely for the welfare of all beings.
Impatience Patience
Sloth Activity
Narcissism, Vanity Considering others and decreasing our sense of self-importance.
Self pity Considering others and their lives.
Judgementalism and Prejudice Understand others.
Victim Social Strategy Healing our failed Oedipus/Electra Complex
Aloof Social Strategy Healing our failed Oedipus/Electra Complex
Tyrant Social Strategy Healing our failed Oedipus/Electra Complex
Abusive Social Strategy Healing our failed Oedipus/Electra Complex
Aggressive Interrogator Social Strategy Healing our failed Oedipus/Electra Complex
Seducer/Flirt Social Strategy Healing our failed Oedipus/Electra Complex
Jealous Competitive Star Social Strategy Healing our failed Oedipus/Electra Complex
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